An Amazing Link

I have thought a lot about this post a lot over the last few months. It is amazingly well written and I truly believe the message of the post.

There have been many times my feelings have been hurt simply because the other person has not seen me. They haven't seen that I needed help or I was doing my best and still struggling. Then I think of those around me and wonder if I have missed seeing their signs. I don't intend to hurt others, but I'm sure I do.

I hope that as the holidays come, I remember to really see others.

My unexpected expenses

You know your husband is amazing when he doesn't say anything and just fixes everything.

It all started about three weeks ago...

I started  refinishing our table almost two months ago and things kept going wrong. He has bought me more sandpaper, stain, and brushes (I really hate rinsing the finishes out so I threw away brushes after every coat). After doing it 4 or 5 times I have given up. No one can tell us what is happening. We have tried every dumb idea and suggestion and the results are the same, except David has not drawn on it with a rock or put dirt on it, yet. So, I have called it quits. Our table is what it is and Ben has helped me a lot with it. This one has been ongoing the whole time.

I was trimming the fence line when the weed whacker broke.  Still broken.

A few days later I was mowing the front yard when Ben took over and started the back yard for me. The lawn mower broke. But my brother helped him fix it for free!

back story-Our original kitchen faucet leaked and my sister gave us a new one they bought, but decided they didn't like. Ben put it in and got rid of the other one. About two weeks ago I cleaned the fish tank and broke the kitchen faucet (i like to think pregnancy hormones played into this). And also ended up killing some fish.  Ben bought us a new faucet and has been letting me get new fish.

I have been doing crafts with the girls and my own projects, which has required buying some stuff.

And the biggest one is...

I lost the diamond in my wedding ring. We frantically searched our house and retraced my steps for the day, but it was gone. I was so discouraged. How would we ever be able to afford to replace it? As I looked I kept thinking, "This is like an Ensign story, I need to find the higher road". But I was heartbroken and felt hopeless with the situation. I understand that a rock did not create our marriage or strengthen our love for each other over the years. But I was still very sad and I don't think hormones played into that. BUT Ben surprised me with my ring fixed! At first I was really shocked and confused with how he came up with the almost thousand dollars to replace it. I found out that my wonderful husband got the store to honor their warranty and to give us a credit in the amount of the original diamond. They said they didn't have any diamonds that price or cheaper and that he would have to spend a little for a slight upgrade.

And after all this he told me Merry Christmas! I just hope I remember how happy I was to get a new diamond and how loved I have felt with him happily(?) covering all of my unexpected expenses, especially Christmas morning.

Yesterday Morning (Its good!)

Yesterday, while I was in the shower (see, good already) David pulled the curtain back to show me a dead fish. At first I was disgusted then I was annoyed that Ben would send him in to prove to me that he took care of the dead fish.

 

 

I finished my shower to get out to David playing with the dead fish. He was so excited and happy! He had the fish swimming all over and seeing everything. I don't think he realized it was dead. He had a new best friend and was on top of the world.

 

He was heartbroken when we took it away.

He desperately clung to it as we pulled it away.

Just so everyone doesn't think Ben is lame: He did not give the fish to David. He threw it away in the kitchen garbage (incredibly gross which got him a lecture) in front of David then went downstairs. David just pulled it out and had the time of his life!